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Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Until We See You Again

 
These two had a very special bond. They were buddies.
The hospice staff and nursing staff thought Dad was going to pass away days ago and we were told on a few different occasions that this was it and to be prepared. But…Dad kept hanging on. The staff kept saying, “Is there anyone else that your Dad is waiting to say goodbye to?” I had been hesitant to bring Parker in to see Dad since things were going so poorly. I didn’t know how Parker would act or how I would help Parker even say goodbye. But everyone was sure Dad was holding on for someone so today I decided to pull Parker out of school early so he could go visit his Grandpa.
The visit was so special and beautiful. Parker was able to see past how his Grandpa looked or how he was breathing or any of the stuff the rest of us would notice. He looked right at Grandpa, got a big grin on his face and waved “hello” just like he always did when he saw him. Then he started blowing kisses at Grandpa repeatedly. I pushed Parker’s wheelchair up close to the hospital bed and Parker reached out for Grandpa’s hand. He then started very gently rubbing Grandpa’s arm. I helped Parker tell Grandpa Tom that he was there, that he loved him, that he was his special buddy. I told Dad that Parker has had some great moments with his Grandpa and he will always be special to him. Then I told Dad that Parker just wanted his Grandpa to be comfortable and at peace and it was Ok for Grandpa to go to Heaven and be with his Uncle Luke. I told Dad that he could watch over the kids from above and he would have the best seat in the house to watch his grandkids grow up.
I picked up Parker and took him to the other side of the bed and held Parker close to Dad. Parker leaned his head in to lay it on Grandpa’s chest and at that point I lost it. Sure, I was sad. But I was crying because I was witnessing an act of pure, unconditional love. My little boy that is non-verbal was doing everything he could to show his Grandpa just how much he loved him. It was the most beautiful thing.
A little bit later, Parker looked up at his Grandpa Tom and waved “bye-bye”. It was a joyful goodbye like one that says, “Until I see you again”. I tickled Parker to make him giggle and Dad fluttered his eyelids and his eyebrows moved up. This meant the world to me because Dad has been completely unresponsive for a couple of days but it really appeared like he was responding to Parker’s giggle. I held Dad's hand and told him again that it was OK to let go and Parker and I left.
A little over an hour later, I was sitting with John at Dad’s bedside as Dad took his last breath.  I guess he needed to tell his little buddy goodbye.
 
Thomas W. Dorn
10/31/1951-2/21/2017
We love you!
 

Wednesday, February 1, 2017

An Open Letter to the Senate Regarding Betsy DeVos for Education Secretary


Dear Senators,

I wanted to write to you to let you know how deeply concerned I am with the Education Secretary nominee, Betsy DeVos.   First of all, I do not feel she has the experience needed for this position.  She hasn’t been in charge of a large organization, she has never been an educator, she has no personal experience with the public school system and she seems to have a personal agenda.   

The most concerning reason I am personally against Betsy DeVos; however, is her apparent lack of knowledge or expertise in special education services in public school settings.  She didn’t even seem aware of the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) at her confirmation hearing.  IDEA is a crucial and highly important federal law that protects students with disabilities.  I do not feel that civil rights matters such as those protected in IDEA should be left up to the states as she indicated.  I believe all children with special needs no matter where they live should have the “opportunity to receive a free appropriate public education.” 

Let me share why this is of such personal importance to me.   My six-year-old son, Parker, was born with an extremely rare genetic condition called a 6q12-16.1 deletion.  This means he is missing some of the genetic material on his 6th chromosome.  His specific diagnosis is so rare that we know of no one in the entire world with his exact deletion.  This diagnosis has caused numerous medical issues (he has a trach and is tube fed and is followed by over a dozen doctors) and he has significant developmental delays.  He can’t walk independently or talk and he gets sick often.   

Before the implementation of laws like IDEA, my son would not have been able to go to school due to his needs.   However, because of IDEA and the resources and supports provided to special ed students like him, he is able to attend school with his peers and set and achieve goals.  And the wonderful part is, due to the services he gets in school, Parker is making progress and gaining new skill sets and abilities.   I believe all children deserve an opportunity to achieve their highest potential and I think that will be extremely difficult if some of Betsy DeVos’ ideas move forward.    

Besty DeVos is a proponent of vouchers and charter schools.  My fear is that if healthy children use vouchers to go to charter schools or private schools and the funding follows those children (as she has advocated for), then public schools will be left more as institutions for children with disabilities and low income students who are not able to make up the cost differences to attend the other schools.  Public schools will be left with the neediest children but with limited funding and resources.  This will lead to less support and services and lower outcomes which will impact society as a whole.  

Please carefully consider the negative impact Betsy DeVos could have in the position as Education Secretary.  Children like my son deserve a chance at a great education to help them be the best they can be.   I do not feel comfortable leaving my son’s future in the hands of Betsy DeVos.
Best Regards,
Sara Ladd
 

Monday, November 7, 2016

We Got a Dog!!!

Alexa has been asking for a dog for a LONG time now.  Paul kept saying, "No" and I truthfully didn't know that he would ever change his mind.  But, I came across a dog that needed a new home and the owners were willing to let us "babysit" her for a day to see if she was a good fit.  Somehow, Paul agreed to the visit and there was no turning back from there.

Her name is LeeLee (that was her name already and we didn't think we could change it) and she is a five-year-old poodle mix.  She doesn't shed at all and is very patient and gentle.   We didn't know it during our visit but she does have pretty bad separation anxiety and we're still working with her on that but other than that she has been a great addition to our family.  She's still warming up to Paul as it seems he must remind her of someone that wasn't very kind to her in the past but I have full confidence they'll be best buds soon.  




LeeLee really likes Grandpa Tom and jumps right into his lap every time she sees him.